Thursday, May 22, 2008

Russian Brides. Why The Girls Smile Not Much.

Saleswoman from one of Russia's stores hit a psychiatric hospital due to the fact that the director smiled at her all the time. "Maybe I have shortfall," - girl tormented constantly, and her head had turned with this. It's terrible to imagine what would be with the director, if the above incident had occurred in United States.

If the motto of the American lifestyle a "Keep Smiling" can be considered, then for the Russian girls as well all Russians it would be "To smile, for what?" Russians still feel hypocritical the smiles of Western people, and they in their turn believe that Russians are morose and evil. Ever since much has changed. We now know that all this is not so simple.

Korean girl An Hyun Gin, a participant of Olympiad on the Russian language, that was held in Novosibirsk last year, wrote in her composition: "Many Koreans suggest that Russia is a very harsh country, that all Russians are closed and unsympathetic people, that they all love vodka. Now I know that this is not true. "


However, foreigners arriving in Russia, continue to note that very few Russians smile. Nothing surprising.

The difference in smiles is the difference of cultures. We do not smile, they smile. This is not good and not bad, it is so. The main is to take it to socialize with each other.

"When I am asked why I am smiling all the time, I say: I am behind the eight years of training. After all, at school, I was a member of the team of cheerleaders. As you probably know by movie these are the girls who are always smiling. We smudged teeth with petrolatum so that we were otherwise not to smile,"- American Annette Loftus tells to her Russian girlfriends.

This story is a living illustration to the Russian stereotype that the American smile - that's not quite normal and real, in any case, insincere. Foreigners do not disavow. The same Annette, who first came to the Soviet Union in 1991, as she admitted, after returning to the United States, had experienced a cultural shock when saw the smiles of compatriots. "I immediately missed unsmiling city of Leningrad," - she says.

You can imagine how those smiles affected Soviet citizens who were lucky in that time to go abroad.

In Western cultures the smile is a kind of greeting strangers, a prerequisite for human polite communication and the attempts to ensure security in the unfamiliar place with strangers.In Russia it can cause quite the opposite reaction.

A smile on incomprehensible reason put Russians on their guard. Therefore, the Russians made to believe that constantly smiling people are not very healthy: like the girl from anecdote, to which the brick fell on the head.

It should be noted that Americans were not smiling always. Roosevelt first of the American presidents began to smile in all the official photographs. His predecessors posed for photographer exactly the same tie up a position as Russian leaders. By the way, the success of Mikhail Gorbachev in the West was largely due to the fact that he was the first Soviet leader who smiled, and therefore was open to communication and not dangerous.

However, Russians not always went through the streets with gloomy faces. In memoirs noted as a feature of a new emerging Soviet society (after the Revolution of 1917) that "smile has gone." And if "gone" - then it means existed before?

A serious face of Russian brides.

"Common unsmiling - one of the striking features of Russian girls". Russian girls' smiles is not a sign of courtesy, they have not accepted smiling at strangers, and Russians do not answer by smile to smile automatically.

The paradox is that Russians smile less because of their openness…. It turns out that their gravity - it is the habit not to hide their feelings and moods. And because historically is made that the mood often is bad among Russians, then they did not intend to hide it. So the concern they have settled on the face is "common normative look of Russian man."

Just Russian smile, by definition, is for familiar people only, so it is quite difficult to teach Russian girl to keep a smile in everyday life.

Elena Vil-Williams, who worked at her time for the Coca-Cola company, says that the training for Russian and foreign managers are held quite differently.
"For example, it is suffice to say Americans: "You must be smiling." And they are smiling - she tells. - But Russian girl says: "It's disingenuous, this is bad!" Russian girl must prepare herself for such a communication, go inside to find something positive."

Russian brides are still considered the most "serious", ie, unsmiling.

Three kinds of smiles.


Smile the formal - in Western cultures it is the kind of strangers welcome. Automatism of such a smile in the West is so great that Hillary Clinton smiles to photographers even at the Princess Diana's funeral ceremony.

Commercial smile - a mandatory requirement of modern service. In Chase Manhattan Bank the announcement hangs: if our operator did not smile at you, say this doorman, he will give you a dollar.

A sincere smile - a manifestation of good feelings and good relations. The natural human reaction to the positive circumstances. This kind of smile is inherent in all human beings, regardless of cultural conditionalities. It is this kind of smile that characterized the Russian girls.



By: Julia Pika
Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com
Many men who are seeking Russian brides undoubtedly would like to learn more about the features inherent in the nature of Russian girls. This can be done easily by visiting our website dedicated to single Russian women.

No comments: