Thursday, October 16, 2008

The Best Online Dating Photos

Imagine that there is a very attractive but lonely woman sitting at her computer and she goes online to search for dating profiles in her area. Bam!! The search results magically appear on her screen. Now, what is the first thing she sees when she looks at a guy's profile?

Right. His picture!

See, when she's looking through her search results, a picture is what's going to get her attention, at least initially. That's why it's VERY important to have a good "Main" picture. Once she sees your pictures, THEN she'll go on to read your headline and the rest of your profile. You must make a GREAT first impression.

Now, there's all kinds of advice out there concerning Internet Dating photos and which ones to use. Well, simply put, there's a right way to approach profile photos and a wrong way. And you want to do it RIGHT the first time.

Now, first let's go back to what women find most attractive about a guy. Without a doubt, it's his confidence or attitude and his sense of humor or personality. Well, we can't really convey any of those things in our pictures that's why we use our headlines and the body of our profile to convey our confidence and awesome personality.

OK, so what else do women find attractive? A man who has STRONG passions, a GREAT lifestyle and is on his mission in life!

Bingo!! THAT, we can show in our pictures! So, when you first start building your online dating profile, you need to keep this in mind. Ask yourself, "How can I show myself really living it up in my photos?" Well, the answer is you need to include photos of yourself out enjoying your passions. If you love snowboarding, include some pictures of yourself on the slopes with some friends. If you enjoy sail boating, include some pictures of you out on a boat smiling under the sun.

See where I'm going with this?

Women find men with passions and hobbies VERY attractive and this is why you want to show these things in your pictures. So, throw in five pictures in your profile. Two of them clearly showing your face and the other three showing you out enjoying your passions.

Why only five? Because you really don't need any more than that. If you want to include more, that's fine but really five is enough. In addition to demonstrating that you have passions and a great life, you also want to show that you know how to take care of yourself and have good fashion sense. This is why you include two pictures of your face and make sure one of them is your main picture.

Remember, women are different from men. All most men want to see is a HOT, SEXY woman who is fit and attractive. So, as long as we see that in her pictures, we're good. But women want to see a man with a healthy lifestyle, passions and lots of friends. Do you ever wonder why women always have LOTS of pictures of them out enjoying their passions? You'll see traveling pictures, hobby pictures, group photo shots at parties and weddings, etc. That's because women find these things very important and they make the mistake of thinking men find this attractive in them.

Well, that's not necessarily the case. Men are more visual and want to see a pretty face and sexy body first and a fun lifestyle second. Women want to see a fun lifestyle and a guy with passions and plenty of friends first and a cute face and sexy body second. Make sense? Good!

Now, a few more things about pictures. It's best to have a friend or family member take pictures of you and then have a female friend judge them. Make sure she is being honest. That's the best way to get good pictures of yourself! Don't post them on "rate me" sites. You won't get an accurate judgment there.

Should you have a professional photographer take pictures of you? No, I don't recommend that. I've asked several women about that over the years and the consensus is that it makes you seem like you're trying too hard. Remember, you want to be yourself in your pictures. If you wear a suit and tie all the time, then show that in your pictures. If you mostly wear jeans and a T-shirt, then show that. Casual is OK!

This should be obvious, but don't ever include nude pictures of yourself or pics of you with your shirt off flexing in the bathroom mirror. That's downright cheesy!! And take those pictures with a good camera, not your cell phone!

OK, so that is the formula you'll want to follow regarding online dating photos. So, go out and post five good pictures and see what happens. I guarantee that you'll be surprised!

By: Christophe
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Christophe, author of the book "Internet Dating Mastery" is a recognized authority on the subject of Internet Dating with over ten years of experience. His website, www.internetdatingtipsformen.com provides a wealth of informative articles, internet dating tips and tactics on everything men need to know about online dating.

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