Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Which Guys Are Being Chosen By Beauties For Bed?

Sometimes the girls, even blue-eyed, cherubic and golden-haired are thinking about sex. Yes, about exactly the same gross and obscene things that the men dream of. Sometimes we want to find someone who could occasionally just give a pleasure and would not try to muddle our brain with talks about love to the grave. A man to whom it is easy and nice to answer "yes", even if we are still almost not acquainted with him... Who is it, indeed who comes to us in the night fantasies? There is a generalized ideal of a man, which most girls would like to see in their bed. It was discovered recently: all my friends follow the same criteria in the choice, they are very nearly my equal.

Woman loves by the ears. Therefore, it is essential for women what a man is to talk about. Stupid handsomes look good only on television and magazine covers. In life, as a rule, these guys do not excite. Sexy man must be able to tell not only jokes or stories about football, but also about serious life issues, and books on the events taking place in the world. It is cool, when the young man has more or less developed world outlook and he can make his original point of view. In general, higher education is welcome. Although, of course, there are extremely intelligent, interesting individuals without this.

If this round (intellectual) has passed, start to look at the body. The phrase that a man should look a little better than monkey is stupid myth. The man, much more the lover, must be beautiful. With specific males beauty.

First, nobody wants untidy. Rumpled "sports" clothes, old shoes, cheap perfume, a bad haircut are the typical attributes of a looser. Clothes may not even be particularly expensive or new, but it must go very well with man. After all, if there are some doubts in your own taste, you can go to the store with someone who knows how to choose clothes. It is very important to choose the right scent, for many girls a pleasant aroma "works" just overnight. So I recall: for a man there is nothing to be ashamed of in buying a perfume, but it is necessary! And even if the smell is not sharp, but fresh and/or soft. Tender and passionate like all the future communication with the females.

Under the pretty wrapping me to expect a sweet content. I am talking about a beautiful body. This required attribute is very important. We will leave for rich sponsors the sagging beer belly. The men with "tummy", even a little, definitely are not suitable as lovers. In addition, we need muscles. A woman wants to feel weak in the hands of her man. It does not need the ideal Apollo: it is just unpleasant to embrace a weak or feel excess fat in the body of the lover. Therefore, those who do not look strong or have not gone to the gym can not be chosen in lovers by the beauties. Believe me, the aesthetics of the male body is very important for most women.

In principle, to drawn from the loose flaccid body a sexy commodity is really well, it takes from one and a half to two months. For example, my beloved, just followed the simple recommendations on bodybuilding. He now looks cool. Strength of will is another mandatory quality of the hero-lover. So, if you do not see yourself in the portrait painted here, provide a bit of effort and still make you a sexy man. It is so pleasant to be a hero of women's erotic fantasies.

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Friday, May 8, 2009

Register And Try To Fill Your Profile In The Most Appealing Way To Fascinate Russian Girl

Why men from all over the world only choose Russian girls?” Frankly, I get asked this question a lot. What's so special about Russian girls? This article gives you the real information for all your questions.

As per the State Statistics Committee which is headed by V. Sokolin, women in Russia is 10 million more than men. It is observed that the middle aged women are more than men. In Russia, getting married by a divorced women having kid is difficult, noticed by sociologists. There are no men in Russia to get married to: mortality rate of the working age males is extremely high.

Keeping these statistics in mind, check your dating opportunities in Russia as well. You will be shocked by the quality of Russian girls. A Russian girl is beautiful. The proverb 'Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder' confirms that tastes differ. The woman one man considers to be beautiful, another may think she is not. Effortless grace...Charming smile...Kindness...Beautiful cheekbones...Fair hair and skin...? Hard to choose...Possibly, it makes an irresistable mix.
Let's see it by the eyes of men. This is how Western men describe a genuine Russian girl: "Slant to the eyes...","...I can't resist this stunning beauty", "Russian girls are the most beautiful women I have seen"...Should anything be added? However, nobody is able to judge by beauty alone. Let's see other Russian woman's qualities.

Her family is the highest priority to a Russian women. In Russia the marriage age of a women is 25 years. Russian girls are getting married early. At least Russian girls try but fail (see the sensus). It looks unusual if a Russian girl at the age of 30 is still unmarried. She feels uncomfortable either. These are daily facts from the Russian woman's life: ~Being highly educated, she would prefer a stable and happy family to her career; ~Tireless commitment to her loved ones, she keeps the household herself; ~Her husband is a partner and not a competitor; More facts?

Love and romance.

The Russian woman's 'romantic sweetnes' makes her seek for a happy, fulfilling and loving relationship. A Russian girl is tremendously feminine, healthy, sexy, passionate, sensual and thankful. Love-making is not a hard work for her: it's the pleasure and the beauty of mutual satisfaction. The truth is that the Russian girl while making love is enormously making love ... A Russian girl wants to see the excitement in you, so give it to her! You will not be unhappy. You can not get hold of any Russian girl without education and beautiful. You will be pleasantly surprised at the educational level of Russian girls looking for men abroad. A university or college degree is a common thing. It's not a bluff.

It is true that Russian Girls are inclined towards spiritualism. Russia is still owe to all traditional activities of reading books and conducting concerts etc. .Beautiful Russian girls are extremely teachable: you will not believe how quickly they are able to begin speaking a new language and adapt themselves to the new circumstances.

By: Aleks G.

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Friday, April 17, 2009

About Money, Love, And Something More...

I would like that you compiled right now a list of the ten beliefs about money, which you adhere. The second list of your ten beliefs about love, please complete tomorrow.

Do not be anxious about whether these opinions are positive or negative. No one else should see the list, or even know of its existence. But if you want to get its effect, it must be compiled with full honesty, on the basis of your inner truth, and past experience.

Carefully read each the list of a few times. Track how each belief resonates within you, drawing up or pushing away different circumstances, depending on the oscillation, which has generated inside of you. While you will be moving through this list, you will see that some beliefs are working for you, and others - against you. Do highlight the beliefs that work against you and hinder your financial progress. The same is true with regard to love.

By analyzing your beliefs you will find out that no beliefs, no amount of truth are absolute. In this regard, you may decide to get rid of any unwanted beliefs, which prevents you from reaching your goals, and, conversely, to imagine any new in your sole discretion.

No one is able to change your beliefs for you, or for the sake of you, just like no one from outside can impose them forced to you. You and only you are entitled and able to decide what to choose as beliefs of yours, which you will continue to adhere to.

Daily working with your thoughts and beliefs, you can create any reality to yourself wich also can be chosen by you. It all lies within you. Just let your resources to wake up. Which way you are thinking today, that way you are living tomorrow.

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Tuesday, April 14, 2009

The Bad Guys Syndrome And Dating

The dating horizon is affected by the bad guy syndrome, with many people believing that the bad guy always gets the beautiful and nice one. The beautiful ones are already born when it comes to the bad guys; at least that is what the movies have made us believe. You can remember those high school days and there might be a tinge of truth in this allegation. These guys always had the most beautiful babe o their sides. The cutest girls seem to prefer the bad guy, and you cannot blame them.

Everywhere in the world things seem to come in opposite stereotypes, nice girls and bad guy, poor girl and rich guy and so on. It might come out as what nature has endowed, but the truth is that in the dating game men are always stereotypical. Men are always confused and they seem to take stereotypes very seriously, from whence they begin working on them. The laws of nature seem to suggest to us that men should be tough and heroic, yet modernity has insisted on them to be sensitive and ready to hold the baby.

The bad guys seem to have it all as you make your mind to be in touch with your sensitive side. He appears very mean, rude and has never called his girlfriend, amidst being unhelpful and has no time to show her any respect or go for dating occasions. The sad and interesting fact is that he has a fanatical following and support. Life has never been unfair. You treat your woman well and fine and you will appear soft and you have to struggle for her love, while the other guy has not time for his girl whom from what you have deciphered, has no inclination to leave his strenuous side.

The bottom-line is interest. The dating world is made up of surprises and always depicts the opposite of our expectation. It seems they are more interesting and theirs are interesting lifestyles. They have the audacity to always do what they want. They well answer to nobody and always go where their heart tell them to. Theirs is an interesting life. On the other hand, start doing what you are told more so in your dating instances, follow the rules and respect the constitution and you will appear like one hell of a dull might of flesh and blood. The mavericks hold all the interest while the straight among us lack in the facility.

What hurts the conforming man is that he gives all the best into the relationship, and the fruits are very bitter, if there are any. The woman will treat her indifferently more so when he depicts his emotions in their dating life. Let the other guy appear; rigid, noncommittal and seemingly a block of wood when it comes to emotions and the girl he is dating, who might be the cutest if compared with yours, will always be answering to any of his whims and even if she will be complaining to her friends about him, she will never leave his side.

You might be finding it rough on the dating scene with this kind of competition. What you can do is that you can go back to the dating relationship drawing board and make some specifications and changes, then after perfecting yourself to what you want, you can start experience your love life the way you want it.

By: Francis K Githinji
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Monday, April 6, 2009

How To Instantly Attract Women With This Unusual Secret (only A Few Men Know This)

Attracting women is not necessarily a difficult thing. However, if you do everything right, but one thing wrong, you will kill the attraction dead. Attraction is a "true-false" deal, not a "multiple choice"- 100% is an "A," 99% is an "F."

Most men understand on some level that if you want to create initial attraction with women, you have to smile. Almost every attraction and seduction guru out there tells men they have to learn to smile at women - and they are half right. You DO have to smile in order to attract women, but if you do it the wrong way (like most men do) you will repel women.

When most guys hear "put a smile on your face and you will attract women," they plaster a dopey salesman's grin on their face. They show their teeth to every woman they meet and then wonder why these women won't give them the time of day. You see, not only do you have to smile in order to attract women, you've got to smile the right way.

The #1 Way to Stop Attracting Women

Let's talk about the wrong way first. When it comes to attracting women, it is just as important to get rid of your attraction killers as it is engage in attractive behavior. Like I said, you can do everything right, and one thing wrong, and that one thing will kill the attraction dead.

When most men smile at a woman, they do it either in a phony way, or in a "sterile" way. What I mean by sterile is this: they see a woman, and smile at her, but they hold back their feelings of attraction. The woman sees a guy with a safe, neutral smile, a guy who reminds her of Mr. Rodgers, and she smiles back, keeps on walking and that's that.

The Right Way to Smile So You Can Instantly Attract Women

The right to smile at an attractive woman is to use what I call the "naughty boy smile." This is a smile that immediately transmits to her "this interaction IS about attraction, and I make no excuses for my desires as a man." It is often more of a seductive, almost arrogant smirk than a smile, with you looking at her straight in the eye.

The emotion you transmit to her when you do this is, "I'm comfortable with myself as a man. You're a sexy woman, and yes I'm attracted to you." Instead of making the interaction sneaky or covert, it's an overt interaction. Your attitude should be, "YES, this is about attraction, and yes I know we will both enjoy it."

When you smile at a woman in this manner, with this intent, the effect is electrifying. In a split second, you're put into a completely different category of man, far away from the nice, safe, predictable guys she's used to meeting. Suddenly, you're a bit dangerous, a bit unpredictable, and completely attractive.

How Do I Know The "Naughty Boy" Smile Will Instantly Attract Women?

For years and years I used the safe guy smile in my futile attempts to attract women. Finally, I started paying attention to the gestures and facial expressions of friends who were very good at attracting women. Everywhere we went they had girls around them. The one thing that stood out like a beacon in the night was they all had their own version of the "naughty boy smile," and they all used it to devastating effect.

When I started to put it work myself, the reactions I got from women were immediately different than what I'd gotten before. All of a sudden women WERE interested in me. Instead of being just a "safe friend" and a "nice guy," women thought of me as an attractive man… and my life got much, much more exciting.

Is This All You Need to Know About Attracting Women?

Of course not. If that was the only thing you need to know about attracting women, then I wouldn't be able to create eBooks, special reports and a controversial email newsletter to help you attract women now. But knowing how to smile the right way IS a vital piece of the attraction puzzle. If you start implementing it, you will see immediate results. It will take you a bit of time to find your own, unique "naughty boy smile." But once you have it, you have it. And then your interactions with women will start to take on a very different… and very exciting… tone. The "naughty boy smile" is one of the most powerful things I've ever discovered when it comes to instantly attracting women.

By: J Alanis

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Thursday, April 2, 2009

Interesting Conversations With Women- How To Quickly Create Sexual Tension

Starting conversations with women isn’t difficult, but maintaining their interest is. When interacting with the opposite sex, most guys run out of steam before they even get going. They introduce themselves, babble a bunch of random statements, and endure the painful awkward silences that follow.

Sound familiar?

The good news is that talking to women doesn’t have to be burdensome, and in truth, it can be a lot of fun! The trick to catching and keeping a girl’s interest is simple…listen. Most guys waste so much energy worrying about what to say, but in reality, women’s answers to their questions could provide for ample conversation.

Here’s what I mean…

#1- Be a Funny Guy

Unless you’ve bee living under a rock your entire life, you should know that everyone (especially women) love being entertained. If you can make a girl laugh, you’re already on her good side. With that said, go into the dating scene with a few funny stories about your life, and find ways to share them with the women you’re approaching.

If you don’t think you have any funny stories, think again. Everybody can recall times in their past that were embarrassing or memorable, so make sure you have at least four of these tales to share with the women you approach. Being able to laugh at yourself will lighten the mood and build rapport with the opposite sex.

For your convenience, I’ve included the following format to help you craft a great story. You’re welcome. As you’ll notice, the setup is similar to what you’ll hear in a good joke:

• You are the main character.

• Make sure to demonstrate appealing character traits, such as confidence or courage.

• The tone of your story should be light and funny.

• See to it that the ending (or “punch line”) is interesting and memorable.

If you’re smart, you won’t improve these stories on the spot. Practice makes perfect, so take the time to perfect your storytelling prior to hitting the social scene. Try them out of family or friends, and see what they’re reactions are.

#2- Go Fishing

Remember when I mentioned the importance of listening? If you keep your ears open while talking to a woman (instead of just staring at her chest) you can literally “fish” for additional topics of conversation. Ask questions about her background, hobbies, or career, and use her answers to find a common ground with her. Not only will this demonstrate your compatibility with her, but it will show her that you’re genuinely interested.

If something she says lends itself to a funny story you have, all the better! The point is to be relatable to the women you approach, thereby building rapport with them. People are naturally drawn to others like them, and the more a woman feels like you understand her, the more she’ll be attracted to you.

Talking to women shouldn’t be a painful experience...if you know what you’re doing. By arming yourself with some good stories and an open ear, any woman will be putty in your hands. Practice these tips every time you hit the dating market, and say goodbye to awkward silences forever.

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Thursday, January 22, 2009

Why Chinese guys choose their brides from Russia.

When a Russian girl from city of Komsomolsk-on-Amur was going to Harbin for studying, she could not assume finding her destiny there.

As a beginning, four years ago 25-years-old Marina Kushnarenko decided to study the Chinese language. In Heyluntszyan State University girl was persuaded to give Russian language lessons to one of the employee. Soon she noticed that her student is not so much interested in Russian verbs, but his pretty teacher. "Malina",as Chinese friend called the girl, was not going to stay in China, so decided to stop the advances fundamentally. But Chzhunven was persistent. When he had told her about his love, Marina already was fairly speaking Chinese. It's the language young family communicates today.

- He bribed me with his reliability, a serious attitude to life, family - she recalls one year after the wedding.

"New dwellers of Harbin"

Settled down in Harbin, Marina had established relationships with compatriots, and after a while headed the Russian club. In the city with Russian history there is a lot of people from the former Soviet Union. There are about 200 mixed marriages.

With the help of Russian Club, new dwellers of Harbin from Russia retain connections with the old-timers - children and grandchildren of immigrants of the first and second waves.

- We want to unite the compatriots - our heroine says. - We make tours on the historic Harbin, lay flowers to the monument to Soviet soldiers and organize action "St George Ribbon" on the Victory Day, we put in order the territory of the Holy Iverskiy Temple (General Kappel, associate of Alexander Kolchak was buried here). And if possible, we make parcels to the Russian prisoners that are in Chinese prisons...

But now the deals of club are on the second plan. Since four months ago the family has a son Timur and Marina holds most of the time at home.

Oddly, Chzhunven dreamed of a daughter. In China, the law prohibits making ultrasound and find out in advance the gender of the child. It is linked to the fact that young couples get rid of unborn girls. Incidentally, the Chinese one-child policy does not apply to international families, so it is possible that little Timur will have a brother or sister.

Marina by her own experience convinced that the stories about the caring Chinese fathers - are not a myth.

- Here in Cina, the men have a lot of responsibilities in family. But I am probably more lucky, Chzhunven has good character - she admits. - He comes from work and washes the diapers, he can cook dinner or clean the apartment. In short, he does not object to any housework, no problem.

No discords for the food - wife cooks Russian dishes, her husband cooks Chinese.

The interpreter and journalist Jana, Chinese girl accompanied us the visiting, once said how gently spouses address to each other:

- In our families we do not call the husband "dear, sweet." We call so the children only. But Marina is producing this so naturally...

The difference of mental experiences has been balanced by common values - they both cherish family and believe that the most important is understanding and respect. Well, if you have found a common language in the main point then a different upbringing, skin color and shape of eyes are no longer relevant, young people feel sure.

Prestigious wife

When I was going to arise for visit, I called Marina, she, unlike most Russian wives, had not been objected. Usually our girls go on about the Chinese men, who for some reason do not wish to advertise the family routine and avoid the journalists. When we met, it became clear that Marina settles all in the family.

To the question: "Who is the "boss" of the house?" the husband having no reflection points on his beloved.

As the interpreter Jana said, in China it is agreed that the current affairs of the family have been decided by the wife, and serious problems - by both spouses.

It is prestigious to have a Russian wife in the Celestial. And Chzhunven confesses not without the pride that friends envy him. When spouses walking along with little Timur, passersby look at an international family with interest and well-dispose, that incidentally, can not be said about the attitude to Russian-Chinese families in our homeland...

Marina does not cease thought of returning home. This is a sore point for her. But so far, she says it is not possible. The reason is not the ignorance of her husband the Russian language and consequently the inevitable problems with the work. Russian wife is afraid to move her Chinese husband to her motherland, because she is not confident in his safety.

- I will simply be afraid to let a spouse leave the home - the girl says frankly.

Little Timur, as well his mother, has Russian citizenship. In this case it is easier to obtain documents to travel to Russia, and Marina is going to spend the summer with her parents in the Khabarovsk district.

The difficulties of translation

The walls of the kitchen in three-room apartment, which is bought out from University by Chzhunven, are decorated with Russian alphabet. It turned out that Marina's mother-in-law began to study Russian language in order to better understand her daughter in law. Grandmother and grandfather came here every night to help nurse the grandson.

The son's decision to marry Russian girl caught them as a surprise, but they did not object. Just wanted to know what she is in the eastern horoscope. And, having learned that the girl was born in the year of goat, noted with a happy: "Goat and Cat is a good union." Now the parents are helping her to get along with life in a foreign country and of course, respect her for having learned their language.

According to our heroine, she has not a traditional Chinese family. In the China it is agreed that all major decisions concerning the child are taken by grandmother (husband's mother). But Marina as soon as learned that she was pregnant immediately placed on all the dots above "i". She told relatives that she herself will care about a child.

Chinese women are with children up to three months, after this the child is given to nurse or grandmother. Marina decided not to rush to work, the salary of her husband provides the family of the average standard of living.

- We are well fed, everything is cheap here, and what is most important we can afford to fly to Russia and to rest in the Chinese resorts - the girl says.

In her prospect there is the trip to home, meeting with relatives. Chzhunven with his visa will be able to stay with Russian kinsfolks not longer than two weeks. Then he will come back to Harbin to be waiting for his Malina...

Anna Hamatova, professor, director of the Institute of East of FESU:

- The Chinese are getting married foreign dirls (not only Russian women) primarily because of the country's one-child policy, at the same time the international family can have two or more children. In addition, in the country ther is artificially created situation where men prevail over the women. So there are the problems in the Chinese population, in other words, our neighbors do not have enough their own brides.

There is another feature there. The Chineses are educated in a spirit of teamwork, opposed to, say so, personalizators - the Americans, that is why there is the cult of the family in China. The man, based on the canons of Confucianism, is obliged to take care of his wife and children, that is in our understanding a reliable man's shoulder... We have many girls students, which having a period of trial in China, entered into marriages with Chinese men. Another issue - whether the girls can stay in this country forever?

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Sunday, January 18, 2009

Singles Name The Best Countries For Dating Good Looking People.

In any country, there are good looking people and average looking people. Singles are an ideal group to ask just which country produces the best dating opportunities and the best looking people in general.

The following comments relate to a general concencious, and are real, actual comments from singles who have posted in our forums and have freely offered their opinions. We have summarised the overall opinions of dozens of singles from our internet dating site partner.

How singles viewed the English:
Opionions varied considerably. English people often have attractive traits which can be attributed to their accent, charm and humor.

How singles viewed the Italians:
The italians are well regarded for their good dress sense, handsome men and beautiful women.

How singles viewed the Brazillians:
Brazillians are seen as one of the best looking groups in the world. A recent poll in Rolling Stone magazine also suggests this could well be true.

How singles viewed the Japanese:
Certainly, males who are fans of Asian women expressed a view that there are loads of hot Japanese women and they are also considered good wife material.

How singles viewed the Polish:
Polish women are considered natural Beauties, and also rank among the best looking in the world. Polish women possess something that you just cant quite put your finger on.

How singles viewed the French:
The French are seen as sophisticated, sexy and romantic all rolled up into one very attractive package. The French have a reputation for being alittle vain however, with polling group BVA claiming 80% of French people are self proclaimed good lookers.

How singles viewed the Russians:
Russians, much like their Ukraine cousins, are yet another genetically blessed country. Whilst the phrase beautiful does not genuinely capture the phenomenon. The women many singles recollect are extraordinarily, incredibly, spectacularly gorgeous.

How singles viewed the Australians:
The Australians were viewed as friendly and having a laid back body beautiful, sexy, beach/outdoors culture.

How singles viewed the Germans:
The Germans did not rate highly in the looks department, so in that respect there is no data indicating that Germans were viewed as good lookers. As we know however there are always individual exceptions with any country.

How singles viewed the Dutch:
In the looks department, the Dutch had some good feedback, although many were considred rude and ignorant.

The views expressed in this article are not neccessarily the opinion of the writer, but a sumarised general view of singles who have researched the physical attributes of people from various countries.

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Wednesday, January 14, 2009

How To Make No Mistake When Choosing Clothes Or... Wife.

Searching a life partner on dating sites, we often find ourselves in the same position as a buyer in a huge store with a large assortmentom. We face one and the same problem there - the problem of choice. Or in other words - the problem of clarity of purpose. If the objective is quite clear, that is half the success. The likelihood of a good choice in this case is 50/50. And if the process of selection will be also correct, then the full success is guaranteed. There is an easy way (or tool) by which it is easy to determine the correct choice, which you will never regret later. The tool is always "on hand" and it does not misfire. This is your innate intuition (by the other definitions - soul). Each of us had used it many times in the life, being not always aware of this...

The clearest and simplest example, as well the training of the ability to define your goals at the same time is finding the necessary clothing for you. Do please recall, there have been cases where you bought seems to be the appropriate thing, but later it turns out that you stop like it or it is not suitable, or has a defect. And it had happened that you have seen something, bought it immediately without hesitation and are happy with it for today. The difference between those things is that one of them is someone's else, and the second one is yours.

The first thing that seemed appealing to you, was intended for another person, but not for you. Perhaps you saw it on a friend or a mannequin. If the thing looks good on the other man, it yet does not mean that it will go for you. And this is not your weakness but your dignity. It is very bad to be a mannequin, on which everything looks good. It is not the generally beauty makes the strong impression but the stressed individuality.

I aware that all of this you know very well without me. However you go shopping for a long time and agonize, not knowing what to buy. Knowledge of styles, fashion sense, even a good taste, it does not help you. After long searches, you are still not entirely satisfied with the acquired thing. In order to always find exactly what you need you have to learn how to distinguish your goods from someone's else ones. How is it done? You will not believe how simple is it!

First, never torture yourself with the problem of choice. Since you are clearly in violation of the balance. The more you tighten on this, the worse the result will be. You do not need to examine things and analyze their advantages and disadvantages for a long time. The reason should not participate in process of choice because the mind and it's thoughts is not YOU, but the swoop from the influence of "the commonly established views", from advertising finally. Just go and see like in the exhibition, nothing thinking.

First, you have to be clear about yourself in general terms, what would you like to buy. It is not necessarily to represent the details. The only description is to be the type of clothing. For example, if you need a coat, just put a goal to choose a coat, and no more extra conditions. Let your soul choose - it is much closer to what YOU actually ARE. It will not miss the slightest detail and always tell you in time on your thing. You will learn about it as soon as among the many things you will see and rather feel the only one that inspires you a special liking.

Once again I repeat, you do not need to analyze why do you like the thing. You just like it and you can say about it «this is the right thing I need». You will buy it without thinking.

Even if you're looking for it for a long time and you can not find it, no doubt, there is your thing in a some store. If there is not in the third one, then in the tenth store you can find it. It patiently waits for you so that you also be patient, do not thrash about, do not torture yourself with a doubt and do not reproach yourself. And to make the confidence absolute, I'll reveal the secret of distinguisher between other's thing and yours one. It is as easy as well.

As I have said, during the selection process, you should not think about the benefits and disadvantages of the thing. But the moment when you must tell the seller your «Yes» or «No» has come. At this time you are very sweet sleeping, even if you think that this is not the case. Your sleep is particularly strong if there are either seller or your friend beside that tells you about the thing.

While you are deciding, your mind only is working. It analyzes the advantages and disadvantages, it builds it's own concept and makes it sound and persuasive, but at the same time it listens to the views of others. The mind is so absorbed into the process, that it really does not pay attention to the feelings of the soul. In this sense, the mind is firmly sleeping.

Let it be, do not disturb it until it takes action. And the decision is made. Attention! At this point, don't listen to anybody, wake up and be aware of: what are the feelings you had when the decision was taken? Was it a condition of mental comfort, or vice versa? The state of mental comfort will show you the attitude of the soul to decision of your mind.

Mental comfort, as you know, can not give you unambiguous answer. The soul does not always knows exactly what it wants and can also vary. If you liked the thing at first sight, and you soon felt it, then the soul said «yes». But afterwards the mind turns on and starts to analyze and justify the choice. If as a result of the analysis your mind also said «yes», it means that the thing yours. If you liked the thing not at first sight, but as a result of rational justification, then you should particularly pay attention to the slightest spiritual discomfort. The soul has a remarkable feature - sometimes it does not always know exactly what it wants, but (Attention!), it always knows exactly what it does not want to! Herein lies the secret of the correct choice.

If you hesitate, if anything in this thing you have is mild anxiety or discomfort, if light shade of doubt or oppression runs - this is not your thing. The mind will start to persuade you and colorfully to paint all the dignities. If you caught yourself on that you are coaxing yourself, trying to convince you that this has both good shape and size as well - you can immediately without regret reject this thing - it is someone's else but not yours.

Unequivocal selection criterion is in one simple phrase: if you have to coax yourself, the thing is someone's else. Do know it: if the thing is yours, you do not have to coax yourself.

And finally, whether in the selection process you should listen to the views of others? I think not. No one except you, will be able to choose your thing. If you liked it unconditionally, you can be absolutely sure that when others will see it from you, they come into raptures.

In conclusion, let's get back to love affairs, to the question of choosing a wife. There is an ancient Eastern parable. At a Bazaar a dervish (peripatetic sage) is siting. Many people apply to him for solving their life problems, and he helps everyone with wise advice. A richly dressed young man approaches, puts a coin in a bowl for donations, and respectfully askes.
- Oh, wise! I really need your advice.
- What's your question?
- The fact is that I am in love. I like a very good and beautiful girl from a respected family and would like to marry her. Give me advise dear, should I marry her or not?
- Do not marry her!
- ???
- If you really wanted to marry her, you would not ask anybody.

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