How To Make No Mistake When Choosing Clothes Or... Wife.

Searching a life partner on dating sites, we often find ourselves in the same position as a buyer in a huge store with a large assortmentom. We face one and the same problem there - the problem of choice. Or in other words - the problem of clarity of purpose. If the objective is quite clear, that is half the success. The likelihood of a good choice in this case is 50/50. And if the process of selection will be also correct, then the full success is guaranteed. There is an easy way (or tool) by which it is easy to determine the correct choice, which you will never regret later. The tool is always "on hand" and it does not misfire. This is your innate intuition (by the other definitions - soul). Each of us had used it many times in the life, being not always aware of this...


The clearest and simplest example, as well the training of the ability to define your goals at the same time is finding the necessary clothing for you. Do please recall, there have been cases where you bought seems to be the appropriate thing, but later it turns out that you stop like it or it is not suitable, or has a defect. And it had happened that you have seen something, bought it immediately without hesitation and are happy with it for today. The difference between those things is that one of them is someone's else, and the second one is yours.

The first thing that seemed appealing to you, was intended for another person, but not for you. Perhaps you saw it on a friend or a mannequin. If the thing looks good on the other man, it yet does not mean that it will go for you. And this is not your weakness but your dignity. It is very bad to be a mannequin, on which everything looks good. It is not the generally beauty makes the strong impression but the stressed individuality.

I aware that all of this you know very well without me. However you go shopping for a long time and agonize, not knowing what to buy. Knowledge of styles, fashion sense, even a good taste, it does not help you. After long searches, you are still not entirely satisfied with the acquired thing. In order to always find exactly what you need you have to learn how to distinguish your goods from someone's else ones. How is it done? You will not believe how simple is it!

First, never torture yourself with the problem of choice. Since you are clearly in violation of the balance. The more you tighten on this, the worse the result will be. You do not need to examine things and analyze their advantages and disadvantages for a long time. The reason should not participate in process of choice because the mind and it's thoughts is not YOU, but the swoop from the influence of "the commonly established views", from advertising finally. Just go and see like in the exhibition, nothing thinking.

First, you have to be clear about yourself in general terms, what would you like to buy. It is not necessarily to represent the details. The only description is to be the type of clothing. For example, if you need a coat, just put a goal to choose a coat, and no more extra conditions. Let your soul choose - it is much closer to what YOU actually ARE. It will not miss the slightest detail and always tell you in time on your thing. You will learn about it as soon as among the many things you will see and rather feel the only one that inspires you a special liking.

Once again I repeat, you do not need to analyze why do you like the thing. You just like it and you can say about it «this is the right thing I need». You will buy it without thinking.

Even if you're looking for it for a long time and you can not find it, no doubt, there is your thing in a some store. If there is not in the third one, then in the tenth store you can find it. It patiently waits for you so that you also be patient, do not thrash about, do not torture yourself with a doubt and do not reproach yourself. And to make the confidence absolute, I'll reveal the secret of distinguisher between other's thing and yours one. It is as easy as well.

As I have said, during the selection process, you should not think about the benefits and disadvantages of the thing. But the moment when you must tell the seller your «Yes» or «No» has come. At this time you are very sweet sleeping, even if you think that this is not the case. Your sleep is particularly strong if there are either seller or your friend beside that tells you about the thing.

While you are deciding, your mind only is working. It analyzes the advantages and disadvantages, it builds it's own concept and makes it sound and persuasive, but at the same time it listens to the views of others. The mind is so absorbed into the process, that it really does not pay attention to the feelings of the soul. In this sense, the mind is firmly sleeping.

Let it be, do not disturb it until it takes action. And the decision is made. Attention! At this point, don't listen to anybody, wake up and be aware of: what are the feelings you had when the decision was taken? Was it a condition of mental comfort, or vice versa? The state of mental comfort will show you the attitude of the soul to decision of your mind.

Mental comfort, as you know, can not give you unambiguous answer. The soul does not always knows exactly what it wants and can also vary. If you liked the thing at first sight, and you soon felt it, then the soul said «yes». But afterwards the mind turns on and starts to analyze and justify the choice. If as a result of the analysis your mind also said «yes», it means that the thing yours. If you liked the thing not at first sight, but as a result of rational justification, then you should particularly pay attention to the slightest spiritual discomfort. The soul has a remarkable feature - sometimes it does not always know exactly what it wants, but (Attention!), it always knows exactly what it does not want to! Herein lies the secret of the correct choice.

If you hesitate, if anything in this thing you have is mild anxiety or discomfort, if light shade of doubt or oppression runs - this is not your thing. The mind will start to persuade you and colorfully to paint all the dignities. If you caught yourself on that you are coaxing yourself, trying to convince you that this has both good shape and size as well - you can immediately without regret reject this thing - it is someone's else but not yours.

Unequivocal selection criterion is in one simple phrase: if you have to coax yourself, the thing is someone's else. Do know it: if the thing is yours, you do not have to coax yourself.

And finally, whether in the selection process you should listen to the views of others? I think not. No one except you, will be able to choose your thing. If you liked it unconditionally, you can be absolutely sure that when others will see it from you, they come into raptures.

In conclusion, let's get back to love affairs, to the question of choosing a wife. There is an ancient Eastern parable. At a Bazaar a dervish (peripatetic sage) is siting. Many people apply to him for solving their life problems, and he helps everyone with wise advice. A richly dressed young man approaches, puts a coin in a bowl for donations, and respectfully askes.
- Oh, wise! I really need your advice.
- What's your question?
- The fact is that I am in love. I like a very good and beautiful girl from a respected family and would like to marry her. Give me advise dear, should I marry her or not?
- Do not marry her!
- ???
- If you really wanted to marry her, you would not ask anybody.

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